Eating Disorders

Christmas shopping shame

December 24, 2014

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A Certified Eating Disorders Registered Dietitian (CEDRD) with a master's degree in dietetics & nutrition. My passion is helping you find peace with food - and within yourself.

Meet Katy

It's the Sunday before Christmas and I'm in a shame spiral.  The gifts I thought I'd ordered for my brother-in-law and my sister are sitting in my Amazon shopping cart…unordered. 

I immediately go into my typical pattern when in shame (it's how I know immediately when I'm in shame): 

  • Denial that this is my fault and looking for who else I can blame
  • Rationalizing why this must have happened (e.g. "I was too busy worrying about everything else")
  • Anger that such a thing could happen to me – cue "victim" mode
  • Intense obsession about how to fix what happened in such a way that nobody will know I screwed up

Because I am a die hard Brene Brown fan, I was able to pause and consider how to proceed productively.  Knowing that connection and vulnerability are power tools against shame, I told my husband what happened and that I was in shame about it, and he reassured me that it's not that big of a deal.  He also reminded me that the holidays are about connecting and spending time with our loved ones.  (Sigh of relief).  

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