People often come to me in a state of distrust and confusion with their body. This is understandable, given the ways we are taught not to trust our bodies. We are told that our appetites are too much and that we must “watch what we eat” so as not to eat too much. Implicit in the distrust is the fear of becoming or staying fat.
Based on the assumption that their body is not to be trusted, people will outsource their eating to plans, programs and “experts” that tell them what to eat, when to eat, how much to eat.
By the time they get to my office, they are realizing that none of this is working for them, at least not long-term, and they want someone to help them feel “normal” with their eating.
And often, they hope that I can give them some type of a plan that will do this. While I can give some eating guidelines or even a meal plan, that’s not going to “fix” the problem. Working off some type of structured eating plan can be very helpful in terms of getting a person in a non-restrictive pattern of eating consistently throughout the day, but it’s very much a starting point, not the end point.
The end goal is for the person to have connection and trust with their own body and the signals it sends. This includes appetite signals, but also other signals for things that we need, including sleep, movement, relaxation, fun and so much more. Often our appetite is a metaphor for what we really need in life. So not only does the person have to learn to nourish their body, but also their soul.
I may be an expert in food, nutrition, metabolism and the psychology of eating….
But YOU are the expert of your own body. Only you can truly know what your body is saying and what it needs.
My job is to help you get back to the place where you are attuned to these messages from your body and can honor them with compassion and respect for yourself.
I’m happy to help you with this. Email me if you would like more information about how we can work together.