I’ve been thinking about this for months…because I feel like there’s been something welling up inside of me, and for a long time I couldn’t quite figure out what it was…And then it hit me.

What I’m building isn’t just a podcast. It isn’t just coaching. It isn’t just intuitive eating.

It’s a MOVEMENT..

Because millions of women across the world have reached the same breaking point…

They’re DONE. They’re sick of obsessing about food, they’re exhausted from the constant expectations about their appearance, and they’re fed up with dieting and diet culture.

Have you ever thought…

• I cannot do another diet.
• I can’t spend another Monday starting over.
• I don’t want to spend another vacation worrying about food.
• I’m exhausted by all the conflicting nutrition advice.
• I want to be healthier, but I don’t want to hate myself anymore.
• I want my brain back.

If that’s you…this movement is FOR you….YOU are the movement…WE are the movement. 

And I’m calling this movement ENOUGH ALREADY. 

What Are We Saying “Enough Already” To?

Enough already with the restricting and dieting and crazy making with food.

Enough…

• with starting over every Monday
• with believing this next plan will finally fix us
• with letting the scale determine our mood
• with putting our lives on hold
• with feeling guilty after every dessert
• with believing smaller automatically equals healthier
• with spending our mental energy thinking about food instead of living our lives
• with pretending this is normal

This movement isn’t about giving up on health.

It’s about giving up on the strategies that have been hurting us in the name of health.

And the deeper meaning of this movement is that YOU are enough already as you are.

The Promise We Were Sold

From the time you were born diet culture was already promising that weight loss would solve everytthing…

“If you lose the weight…”

You’ll finally:

• be confident
• be happy
• be disciplined
• be healthy
• be worthy

But how many decades have we spent chasing that promise now? Most of us have been doing this for 30, 40, 50+ years.

And in more recent history, just when many women FINALLY started to realize that dieting doesn’t work long-term…

…along comes wellness culture.”

• detoxes
• hormone balancing
• Cortisol fear 
• inflammation fear
• Hysteria over seed oils
• glucose monitors for people w/o diabetes
• Supplements out the wazoo
• parasite cleanses
• heavy metal detoxes
• food sensitivity tests
• Carnivore diet
• raw milk
• whatever absurd thing TikTok invented this week

It’s amazing how every week we’re introduced to a brand-new food that’s apparently trying to kill us…right before someone conveniently offers to sell us the solution. The wellness industry has learned that your fear is extremely profitable, and the wellness and beauty industries have combined forces to sell you the fountain of youth to make you believe that aging is bad and unnatural, and that you need to be doing everything you can to get rid of any signs of wrinkles, gray hair, sagging boobs, body changes that happen in menopause…

They’ve taught us to look at very normal body things as a problem, and they’ll sell you every diet, supplement, potion, lotion, contraption, botox, and plastic surgery as the solution. 

In diet, wellness and beauty culture you’re never allowed to feel good enough.

ENOUGH ALREADY.

So What DOES This Movement Believe?

In the Enough Already Movement, We believe…

Health matters.

But obsession isn’t health.

Dieting isn’t an effective long-term health strategy.

You can pursue better health without declaring war on yourself.

Your body deserves respect, not hatred and not punishment.

Exercise is something your body gets to enjoy…not a way to earn and burn calories

Intuitive eating and gentle nutrition belong together.

Weight is simply a neutral piece of data.

It is not your identity.

It is not your morality.

It is not your worth.

Healing is possible at 28.

It’s possible at 48.

It’s possible at 68.

It’s NEVER too late to make peace with food.

Women deserve conversations bigger than:

“What diet are you on?” or “Have you lost weight?”

We need to start connecting with each other and talking about more meaningful things in life:

• dreams
• businesses
• books
• grandbabies
• politics
• travel
• hobbies
• faith
• friendships
• purpose

I refuse to believe the most interesting thing about women is the size of their bodies.

We also believe…

Aging isn’t failure. It’s AWESOME. It’s proof you got another year – and that’s never guaranteed to us. When my mom died at 67 it rocked my world. Her parents lived into their 90’s and I always assumed she would too. There were so many things that she hadn’t yet done that she always said she would, so many things I wish she was here for. What a GIFT it would have been for her to get more wrinkles.

As I’m getting older I am seeing my body change, and it’s weird, sometimes it’s uncomfortable, and I sometimes have those thoughts that I don’t like it and I wish I could change it…and then I remind myself where I learned that message from. And when I reconnect with my values and the values of this Enough Already movement, I am fired up and I reject that old belief system. 

I’m here for the aging process, and I’m going to take care of my body through it.

What This Movement Is Really About

At the end of the day, this isn’t actually about food or dieting. It’s not even about weight.

It’s about refusing to spend another decade believing the appearance of your body is THE most important thing about you.It’s about becoming mentally available and fully present in your life again.

This is about reclaiming everything food and body obsession has stolen from you, and taking your power back.

Imagine…

• going on vacation and actually being present. I wasn’t fully present on my own honeymoon in Jamaica and it breaks my heart…you’d better believe I’m going to be fully present on our summer vacation when we go to Florida in a few weeks!!
• eating dinner without guilt
• Taking the family picture. We just had family photos taken when I was with my extended family for my aunt and uncle’s 50th wedding anniversary, and if I had been too afraid to get in that photo there’s a very good chance there are people there that I won’t be in a photo with again. We’ve tragically lost 2 people in our family who should have been in that photo. It’s a reminder of what diet culture steals from us.
• Buying clothes that fit your here-and-now body. And how much more comfortable you’ll feel than if you’re hiding in baggy things out of shame, or if you’re squeezing into things that are too tight.
• Laughing more because life feels lighter. 
• Thinking about your passions more than your calories.
• Talking to your daughter differently than your mother talked to you. Helping her go through puberty or her teen years, or through her own pregnancy without body shame or weight obsession.
• Imagine looking in the mirror, and tearing up because you are so grateful for your body and for all of its wrinkles and lumps and bumps, and you are genuinely thankful for all that your body has done for you and gotten you through. Even when you hated it. Even when you abused it. Even when other people abused it. Even when you restricted and skipped meals. Even when you forced yourself to do punishing workouts. Even when you picked it apart in every reflective surface. Imagine being overwhelmed with gratitude for your body carrying you through this life, regardless of how it looks. Imagine wanting to care for your health and your body from a place of gentleness, playfulness, flexibility and respect.

THAT’S what we’re fighting for.

Wrapping Up

This movement has a name. Enough Already.

Enough guilt.

Enough obsession.

Enough starting over.

Enough shrinking our lives.

Enough believing we’ll finally deserve to live once our body changes.

This isn’t about settling.

It’s about finally choosing a path that ACTUALLY makes you happier and healthier – without hating yourself.

Your Action Step and Becoming Part of this Movement

If today’s episode resonated with you, I have one favor to ask. Not for me, but for every woman who still thinks she’s the only one feeling this way.

Go to my Instagram. You’ll see a carousel that simply says ‘Enough Already.’

Screenshot the slide that speaks to you the most, or the one that makes you think, ‘That’s me.’

Share it to your Stories on IG or FB and tag me.

You don’t have to explain yourself. You don’t have to tell your whole story. Sometimes two words are enough:

Enough already.

Because every time one woman shares it, another woman who’s been silently struggling realizes she isn’t alone.

If that feels too vulnerable to share on your stories (or if you’re not super tech savvy and you don’t know how to do that) then I want you to comment “Enough already” on that post. Let’s flood it with comments and show the algorithm that we’re here to make some waves!!!

Make sure you’re following/subscribed to this podcast so you automatically get tomorrow and Thursday’s episodes this week!! They’re going to bring some serious heat and I can guarantee to DO NOT WANT TO MISS IT!!!

In case nobody has told you today – you are ENOUGH ALREADY. We’ll talk again soon.

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Episode 49

As you can tell from the title, this episode is Part 2 of a 3 part series. If you haven’t yet listened to part 1, I want you to push pause and go listen to it right now and then come back to this episode, and make sure that you’re following/subscribed wherever you’re listening so you automatically get part 3 tomorrow because part 3 is going be the most important part of this conversation. 

One of the biggest reasons 99% of people who attempt to do IE go back to dieting is because nobody prepared them for this part. That’s why we need to have this discussion today. Because I won’t lie to you about this. I won’t lie to you or sugarcoat how hard it’s going to be. I will be deeply brutally honest with you. Otherwise you’re not going to have the tenacity to stick with it.

The social media version of IE told you it would bring freedom. They didn’t tell you there would also be a whole lot of grief and a whole lot of SUCK.

Today’s episode is about sitting in the suck.

But we need to be clear on something: Grief and sitting in the suck are NOT the same thing as failure. Soooo many people hit the stage of grief, and they end up in the sucky part of the messy middle, and they bail because they think that’s the end. They think this is what it will be like forever. They think they made a terrible mistake by trying IE in the first place. Nobody told them that this part is NORMAL. It’s part of the process. It’s a rite of passage. “You can’t go over it, you can’t go under it…you’ve got to go through it.”

And I want to let you in on a little secret….When it’s all said and done, if you stick this out and get to the other side…you’re going to be glad you went through it. You’re going to be grateful for the journey and what you learned and gained along the way. The struggle is where the wisdom and healing happens. 

Everyone thinks doing intuitive eating is about:

• hunger
• fullness
• Permission to eat what you’re craving

Those are SKILLS. They are an important part of doing this work, but they only scratch the surface.

The deeper work you must do is grieving, and learning how to tolerate sitting in really hard and sucky feelings, without retreating back to old habits, old patterns and dieting behaviors as a way to regain a sense of safety and control. 

You’re grieving:

• the body you thought you’d have
• the certainty dieting promised
• the fantasy that thinness would finally make you happy
• Those decades spent chasing something that dieting never fully delivered on

This Doesn’t Look Like the Instagram Version of Food Freedom

People expect to immediately feel:

• peace
• confidence
• body love
• freedom

Instead…Sometimes intuitive eating looks like:

• crying in a dressing room
• seeing vacation photos and being horrified or confused about what you looked like because it doesn’t match the mental image you had of yourself
• wanting to delete every picture from your friend’s wedding
• wondering if you’ve gained weight and wanting to get on the scale “just to check”
• thinking maybe another diet wouldn’t hurt
• comparing yourself to your friend who’s losing weight on Ozempic
• feeling awkward in social situations where everyone is talking about their diet
• panicking before going to the doctor

This is the part nobody posts online and talks about – so it feels really hard and lonely when it happens to you and it makes you think it’s not working or you’re not doing it right.

You’re Grieving More Than Your Body

You’re grieving…

The fantasy body.

The future thinner version of yourself.

The promise that “someday” everything would be better.

The certainty dieting gave you. Even though it didn’t work…It felt like you had a plan.

IE replaces “certainty” and control with TRUST. Trust feels much scarier.

You’re grieving the illusion of control. Dieting always gave you something to DO. It felt productive. It felt like you were taking healthy and supportive action.

Intuitive eating often asks you to BE. That feels vulnerable, that feels scary. Because what if you being you isn’t enough? That’s the fear we all have. That there’s something wrong with us that makes us unworthy of love, acceptance and belonging. The shame that lives deep within us that we have attached to our bodies. 

And that’s what this movement is about…it’s about learning to believe that you already are enough already – as you are.

You’re also grieving the years wasted, the money spent. One of the first things we do inside NDC is an exercise where you look at what dieting has cost you both with money and what you’ve missed out on. It’s a painful exercise, but holy crap is it powerful. 

You’re grieving birthdays missed where you didn’t let yourself have cake on your own birthday, or on your son or grandson’s birthday.

The vacations ruined. I talked in last episode about how it ruined my honeymoon.

The photos avoided, the memories lost because you were too insecure to be in the photo.

The time lost that you can’t get back because that’s not how time works.

Opportunities missed…for connections, for taking risks, for having fun, for being fully present. 

It SUCKS to realize this. We are sitting in the suck, rather than running from it by distracting ourselves with a shiny new diet to follow or app to track our food with.

Why The Suck Makes You Want to Diet Again

The urge doesn’t mean:

• IE failed
• you’re doing it wrong
• you’re weak

It means you’re uncomfortable. GOOD. You need to get uncomfortable. Most of you are choosing the comfortable hell of dieting over the uncomfortable heaven of making peace with food and your body. You get to change that. 

Your brain lies to you. It tells you: “Dieting always gave us relief.” I want to remind you it was Temporary relief. False certainty. A project. Hope. The Illusion of Control.

OF COURSE it sounds appealing on some level…it’s just not helpful or productive in the grand scheme of things. We have to play the long game here..

Sitting in the Suck

Instead of escaping…Can you practice noticing, and being curious?

Examples:

“My body changed.” That can be true. It doesn’t mean you need to do something to change or fix it, or that trying to change or fix it is helpful.

“I hate this.” Also true. Nobody wants to sit in the suck. Nobody wants to be uncomfortable. Nobody wants to gain weight in this culture we live in. But that doesn’t mean you need to go back to dieting.

“I wish this weren’t hard.” Also true…and let’s take the next step and tell yourself, “This is hard…AND I can sit with it. AND I can tolerate it. AND I don’t have to diet.”

This is about tolerating and embracing the both/and rather than the either/or of IE vs dieting.

Telling yourself in conjunction with whatever is feeling uncomfortable to you… “And I don’t have to diet.” THAT’S the new skill you are building. The goal right now isn’t to feel amazing. It’s to tolerate the discomfort of sitting in the suck without bailing on it by running back to restricting, dieting or trying to control your food or body.

The Other Side of Grief

Grief doesn’t last forever. No emotion lasts for ever. It changes. And eventually… You stop mourning the fantasy body – Because you’ve built a real life that’s worth being present in.

What replaces grief:

• presence
• confidence
• trust
• flexibility
• relationships
• memories
• purpose

Eventually…You stop wanting the fantasy because you finally have something better. You have peace. You have the freedom we were talking about earlier…but not the version of freedom that’s cupcakes and rainbows. The version of the freedom that allows you to eat a cupcake without feeling guilty AND to know that you don’t have to live in fear of food or feel guilt about what you ate. The version of freedom where you’re no longer held captive by the body shame or the constant thoughts about food and your weight. The freedom to show up fully in your life in the body that you have right now.

And the freedom to genuinely honor your health without hating yourself.

This is why I started the Enough Already movement.

Because women have been hating themselves and dieting for forever, and it’s not working. We have more powerful things to do with our time and energy. 

I want to give you realistic expectations and talk out loud about the hard parts – the parts that are really unsexy and unappealing about this process. Nobody wants to sign up for something that’s going to require sitting in the suck. 

But I can promise you that it’s one million percent worth it to go through this, and to realize your power and how strong you are, and that you can break free from the grip of diet culture and reclaim your right to accept yourself and respect your body. You get to do it your way – and in the way that’s effective, realistic and sustainable – not diet culture’s nonsense way. 

You are enough already just as you are. Enough already with the diet and wellness culture BS.

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Episode 50

This is part 3 of a 3 part series. If you don’t go back and listen to the first 2 episodes first you’re going to be very confused. So pause and go listen to part 1 and 2 right before this, and then come back here. 

As I talked about in part 1, I’m staring a movement – WE are starting a movement. It’s called Enough Already. Enough already with the dieting. YOU are enough already as you are. 

I want you to imagine something.

What if that voice in your head wasn’t constantly criticizing you and telling you how fat and gross and disgusting you are? Or that you can’t be trusted to keep chocolate truffles or salt and vinegar chips in your house?

What if you fully stepped away from dieting, reprogrammed your brain so you’re no longer thinking like a dieter even when you’re not on a diet, and you instead rewired your brain so you’re truly thinking like an intuitive eater. 

What if the idea of taking care of yourself didn’t automatically make you think about what you have to cut out, cut back on or how you have to ramp up your workouts more in a way that basically feels like a punishment?

What if your health wasn’t built on fear, or cutting things out, or torturing yourself with workouts you hate, or chasing a lower number on the scale?

What if you ACTUALLY trusted yourself around food? What if you ACTUALLY found a sustainable and relatively enjoyable way to move your body consistently? What if you redefined what “health” means and broadened your perspective on it to extend beyond your BMI or whether or not you ate sugar today?

Most women listening to this don’t believe that’s possible for them. Most of you have a very narrow definition of health, that’s essentially based on a number on the scale. Our society has handed us definition of health that’s actually pretty warped and inaccurate. Today we fix that. 

Today I’m going to show you what it takes to TRULY get healthier – legitimately healthier – without hating yourself. 

We’ve Been Taught the Biggest Lie About Health

The lie: If you hate yourself enough…You’ll finally change.

Examples:

• hate your body
• criticize your eating
• shame yourself
• weigh yourself
• scare yourself
• compare yourself
• punish yourself

So let me ask you…How’s that working out?

What if the very thing you’ve been using to motivate yourself is the thing that’s been keeping you stuck? I used to force myself to go to the gym every day whether I felt like it or not because I hated my body and I told myself that was what I had to do to fix it. Hating myself was my motivator. Guess what? I burnt myself out on the gym, and it became so toxic for me that I canceled my membership and haven’t been in a gym in over a decade. 

Research is clear that shame is very ineffective at long-term behavior change. For example, the research on quitting smoking shows that shaming people and using fear tactics like telling them they’ re’ going to get lung cancer doesn’t produce sustained smoking cessation. It might for short-term, but it doesn’t stick. Same with most health-related changes. You can scare and shame yourself into doing things for a period of time, but it’s most likely not going to last.

Luckily for me I found other ways of moving my body that I enjoy, and as I’ve started doing more strength training now that I’m perimenopausal, I’ve considered getting a gym membership again, but not because I hate my body…because I care about it and want to honor what it needs.

Body Respect Is More Powerful Than Body Hatred

Body hatred is all about “How can I make my body smaller?” or “How can I fix myself so that I feel worthy?” The reason that I used to try and make myself smaller is because deep down I felt inadequate the way that I was. That was what it boiled down to. I didn’t feel worthy. 

Body RESPECT on the other hand is all about asking yourself, “What does my body need from me today?”

And looking at it this way leads to completely different behaviors.

Examples:

Body hatred:

“I should skip lunch.”

Body respect:

“I’m hungry.”

Body hatred:

“I have to exercise because I ate pizza.”

Body respect:

“I’ve been sitting all day. I think a walk would feel good.”

Body hatred:

“I’m disgusting.”

Body respect:

“My cholesterol came back elevated. Let’s get curious.”

Huge difference here, do you see that? And I want you to understand this…it’s the most important thing that you take from this episode today…

Your Body Gives Better Feedback Than Diet Culture

I absolutely care about health. I care deeply about you being healthy and feeling good – SO THAT you can live your life fully and be connected with the other things you value outside of anything health-related. 

I want you to be healthy and feel good enough to take your kids or grandkids to the zoo, to go on vacation and go site seeing, to say yes to tickets to a football game this fall if that’s what you’re into, to going to the cool new display at your local museum, to being able to volunteer at your local pet shelter, or church or hospital. 

But you need to stop getting your health advice from diet and wellness culture. Even a lot of those articles on websites like WebMD or Healthline are loaded with terrible diet culture loaded advice. 

Rather than trying to aim for some idealized way of eating, or doing pilates or walking with a weighted vest because you see women all over social media doing that for perimenopause, and rather than drinking electrolytes that you probably don’t need in your water because it seems like all the healthy people are doing that (they’re loaded with sodium which if you have high BP isn’t actually good for you…) – rather than doing our culture’s version of “healthy” eating fear-driven wellness where they tell you to avoid seed oils, sugar is poison, ultraprocessed food is going to kill you, and all this other absurd and untrue stuff…

In my world, and within the Enough Already movement we believe that what’s going to make YOU healthier is dependent on YOU and YOUR BODY’S personal needs. 

Instead of just doing random things that you see or hear about online or from your neighbor, I want you to instead start listening to the REAL feedback from your body:

• Energy
• Strength
• Stamina
• Sleep
• Digestion
• Labs
• Blood pressure
• Blood sugar
• Cholesterol
• Hormones
• Mood
• Satisfaction
• Hunger
• Fullness

NOT:

• someone’s before-and-after photo
• a detox
• a cleanse
• arbitrary food rules
• influencer panic
• BMI alone
• “good” and “bad” foods

Your body is constantly giving you data. Dieting has trained you to disconnect from your body, ignore it, override its signals, and to then outsource your wisdom to strangers on the internet who don’t even have legitimate health qualifications.

Trust Is Built With Your Body, Not Found in a Certain Size of Jeans

You keep saying I just don’t trust myself with XYZ food, or to stick with a workout routine or to listen to your hunger and fullness without overeating and gaining a ton of weight. 

I believe you.

But trust isn’t something you wake up with one morning, and it’s not like turning on a light switch…

It’s something you build. Just like in a relationship. Every meal, every decision you make with food and your body.

Every time you:

• nourish yourself
• honor hunger
• notice fullness
• move your body as self-care
• Go pee when you need to
• respond with curiosity instead of punishment

You’re building trust – brick-by-brick. Trust is built through these repeated actions. And I’ve talked to so many of you who say that you want to be an intuitive eater, you want peace with food and your your body – but you don’t trust yourself to follow through on it or stick with it. AND OF COURSE YOU DON’T…(explain)

This Is Why I Created Non-Dieter’s Club

Because here’s what I’ve learned – nobody builds this alone.

We all need someone reminding us:

• you’re not failing
• this is normal
• keep going
• look how far you’ve come
• let’s look at the data
• let’s adjust
• let’s get curious

My clients are always telling me how they had my voice in their head when they were in a difficult moment. One of my clients recently found himself with a flight diversion and delay of several hours at an airport where the food options were extremely limited, and weren’t what he would have wanted in that moment. Instead of freaking out and panicking or just restricting like he would have in the past, he thought about carb, protein, fat and fiber and chose foods to pair together to give his body these nutrients, and bam, the situation was handled without the stress and drama. That’s the power of the mindset reprogramming we do with food. 

When we’re left to our own devices, we rely on those old tapes in our head, those old neural pathways that tell us we can’t be trusted with chips, or that your mom’s chocolate cake recipe is too unhealthy so you shouldn’t bother making it, or that you don’t deserve to have the pasta on date night with your partner, so you get the salad or the fish because it feels like the healthier and safer choice. 

When your brain is so wired towards these old thought patterns it can be very difficult to see food in a different way, and to relate to your body differently. You have those old knee jerk reactions to what is “healthy/unhealthy” instead of being able to see the bigger picture that health isn’t a function of one food or one meal, or your weight. 

That’s why I created NDC to create a space where I can give you the frameworks for new ways of looking at food, strategies for rewiring those thought patterns in your brain, and systems you can put in place in your life to honor your health from a place of self-care and body respect rather than hatred. 

It’s become this beautiful community of women (and a few men!) who are choosing this way of living. They’re practicing. They’re stumbling. They’re getting curious, they’re learning – AN they’re getting healthier mentally and physically. 

And they’re doing it without being in a constant tug-of-war with their body. THAT’S what I want for you. And THAT’S what I mean when I say “get healthier without hating yourself.”

Imagine Yourself One Year From Today

Imagine…you walk into a restaurant and the menu doesn’t stress you out.

You go on vacation and you’re thinking about the gorgeous sunsets or the fun activities, or relaxing on the beach instead of calories.

You get your labs back and you respond with curiosity instead of panic and shame.

You buy clothes because they fit your body today.

You move your body because you enjoy having one and you want to be able to keep moving about in the world.

You hear diet talk and it doesn’t suck you in or make you consider going back on a diet yourself.

You spend more time thinking about your grandkids, your career, your marriage, your faith, your hobbies, than your weight.

THAT’S what we’re fighting for here. THAT’S why this is so important. 

Wrapping Up

Three episodes ago I asked you what you were done with. Yesterday I asked you to sit in the grief instead of running from it.

Today I’m asking you to trust yourself. And it’s for sure not going to be easy. And it’s going to take a heck of a lot longer to get there than you wish it would.

But you’ve spent enough years proving that self-hatred doesn’t work.

ENOUGH ALREADY.

Let’s try something different.

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