In the mind of a person with an eating disorder:
Problem = I feel fat. Fat is bad.
Solution = I must lose weight, because then I won’t have to feel fat.
In the mind of a person recovered from an eating disorder:
Problem = I notice that my mind is telling me I am fat. This doesn’t feel good.
Solution = I’m curious about why I am feeling this way right now? I am going to be aware of my thoughts and feelings, and I am going to continue to nourish my body even though I feel uncomfortable.
When we take the feeling of “fat” literally, the obvious solution is to “fix” it by losing weight. But what if “fat” wasn’t the problem in the first place? What if feeling “fat” was code for something else – some other unidentified uncomfortable emotion?
You can go down the rabbit hole of attempting to fix your feelings of fatness…..or you can see it for what it is, and learn to identify and tolerate uncomfortable emotions and the purpose they serve.
It’s your choice.