Usually when we say "it's your turn," we mean that it's your turn to be picked, to be the next one, the person who fits in more than any other.  The next pop start on the cover of Seventeen, the next news anchor, the next plant manager.  Or the next customer at the deli.  This is the model in which you wait for change to happen to you.

Another model of "your turn," though, is the model of the person who makes change.  We seek the change that is interesting, the change for the better, and most of all, the change that connects us to someone else.  This is the freedom to make change, and the willingness to seek out the tension it brings.   – Seth Godin, What To Do When It's Your Turn (and it's always your turn)

This is about choosing yourself as someone who not only recovers from an eating disorder, but also choosing yourself as someone who does things that matter.  What are you passionate about?  What interests you?  What skills do you already have, and what skills do you still need? 

These kids are collecting gently used sports equipment to share with kids in poor communities.

Barb Unell survived breast cancer.  Then she started a non-profit to help other survivors get 'Back in the Swing' of life physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Kevin Allison used his expertise from television writing and acting to create an online course teaching others how to be better storytellers and communicators.  

Laura Richards was tired of seeing women harmed through domestic violence and stalking.  So she created the DASH risk assessment tool and has taught it to thousands of law enforcement professionals across the world.   Richards also founded Paladin Service, a stalking advocacy group. 

These people are making a difference.  They saw a need and picked themselves to solve it.  The eating disorder has taken up enough of your time and energy.  You have so much to offer this world, even if you don't know what it is yet.  

This dilemma will only be healed when getting chosen is not your major agenda.  

— Judi Hollis, PhD