She's thinner than me.
He's more muscular than me.
She's got it all going for her.
She eats only healthy foods.
He doesn't have to worry about his weight.
These types of comparisons only serve to separate us from others, leaving us feeling like outsiders. When we compare the focus is on the differences, and often we end up feeling inadequate. It makes it harder to feel worthy of connecting with those we are comparing ourselves to.
Yet the story in our heads is that if we overcame these differences than we would be worthy of love and acceptance. Therefore we need to "fix" what's wrong with us, or choose to wallow in the inadequacy.
What if instead we chose to find ways to connect through commonalities rather than differences. This would entail getting to know the other person. Once we know them better we are less likely to judge ourselves against them because we see them as an individual, not as an object that needs to be measured up to.
"Comparison is the thief of joy." – Theodore Roosevelt
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